one's ego gets very vulnerable when drunk. don't drink and blog, kids.
a friend of mine's boyfriend of 4 years broke up with her at the airport after a one month holiday they spent together, giving her the same old "it's not you, it's me" shit. i don't understand boys. seriously.
i ran into a friend's ex last night. he was trying to impress his spanish date. he went to the toilet for a few minutes and when he came back, some guy was chatting her up. he just joined the conversation, talking to the guy. i called him over and said to him privately "look what you're doing is too austrian, or rather germanic. some guy is hitting on your date and you just stand there thinking 'she is an independent woman, she can tell him to go if she wants', blaaah blah... yes she is independent, but that doesn't mean that you should show no interest in the situation. i'm not telling you to beat the guy up or anything, just recognize the fact that he is hitting on your date and cut him off, make him feel left out".
he said "ok i understand" and went back to the scene. he threw his arm around her, said something to the guy and the guy left. success! i wish i could get paid for this kind of lessons.
a guy friend of mine said that being attractive and sexy were two very different things and a sexy person didn't have to be attractive. how can you be sexy and not attractive? isn't sex appeal somehow related to attractiveness? i'll leave you with these questions.
you should seriously consider opening a blog merely to teach the 'germanic' men how to handle the mediterranean chicks! ne sevap kazanirsin be!
ReplyDeletehahaha yeah i'm working on "the don'ts of interaction with girls - a guide for men" volume II at the moment. and it works on all the girls all around the world.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I like the "it's not me, it's you" line. Never fails!
ReplyDeleteSexy describes more of an animal lust. Attractive is beauty which can enjoyed without the explicit desire to enjoy it psychically. Some girls can be sexy without being attractive. British girls for example. Others, like the French, can be attractive and it's only after some intelligent conversation that you realise, hey, they're sexy too!
You wouldn't believe how often I've heard "it's not me, it's you".
i get it when someone's attractive but not sexy, i just don't get being sexy but not attractive. how is that even possible? sexy falls under attractive! it's like saying "it's an apple, but it's not necessarily a fruit". attractiveness is a precondition for sex appeal. maybe it's an irish thing, you guys should meet up for a pint :)
ReplyDeletere: it's not me it's you - that's the name of lily allen's latest album, isn't it? you sound like a nice enough fella, why would you get that so often? i, for one, prefer something like "i don't have time for this shit" in such situations.
oh and you perceive sex appeal after intelligent conversations? seriously? hehehe
ReplyDeleteWell, maybe the guys just think that a ugly girl with big boobs is sexy but not attractive? THe famous I wouldn't marry her but I would do her? :) I am sure that there are girls who work the same way, don't want to be sexist. :)
ReplyDeletewouldn't that make her an ugly girl with big boobs? one doesn't have to be very beautiful to be attractive, some people just have something about them, but i still don't get the whole "sexy but not attractive" thing. and you're such a sexist, mimie :)
ReplyDeleteCan't believe I physically spelled physically wrong! I must have been psychically affected...
ReplyDeleteMimie's right, although there's more to being sexy that having big boobs. In fact, big boobs aren't even sexy, so maybe she isn't right after all.
Intelligence IS sexy however! Guess it's whatever turns you on.
But there is a difference between sexy and attractive. There's that saying that "Berlin is poor but sexy" for example. You'll never hear anyone say Berlin is attractive.
I was lying about hearing "it's not me, it's you" actually. I've been dumped once - sorry, make that twice - but she's still with me. I'm like a bad smell.
And I'll happily meet anyone for a pint. Especially if they're paying!
oh yeah apparently you spelled it psychically and physically wrong. freudian slip?
ReplyDeletesince when are big boobs not sexy? i know that intelligence is sexy, what i was trying to say is; if a person is sexy, you usually notice that before the intelligent conversation and the intelligent conversation adds up to it.
berlin attracts people by being sexy, which makes it attractive. there, I SAID IT :)
What is all this about me not being right, I object :) Big boobs is an example (a slightly over-used one I know) but what I meant is that some men maybe mean that a person can be sexually appealing withouth being pretty or attractive. But Miss Freud is right, if you find someone sexy, you find them attractive, even if it is just on a "physical" level.
ReplyDeleteO what a nice discussion :)
whatever, you sexist.
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Ahh, duuuh whatever... :)
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